Look at yourself in the mirror every day.
Get up close so you can look directly into your own eyes. Smile and say, "I love you." Do this every day until you really, truly, deeply believe it. Don't be surprised if this deceptively simple exercise brings tears to your eyes.
Put on your favorite outfit.
Look at yourself in a full length mirror. Compliment yourself out loud about how great you look, and be specific. Parade around your bedroom and strike a few poses. Don't forget to smile as you do it; remember, it's all about attitude!
Give yourself permission to feel sexy.
One of the great gifts of the female body is that it's full of soft lines and curves. Being sexy doesn't mean you're stupid. Being sexy doesn't mean you think your value is in your beauty. It means that you appreciate this body you've been given. It means you don't have to compete with men on their turf; you've got your own. Gone are the days when women find self confidence from acting like men. Act like a real woman!
Smiling is sexy. It makes you feel good, and when you smile, other people around you will feel good. Smiling is contagious, and in some situations will make people wonder what you've been up to. That combination of happy and mysterious is sexy.
Give yourself an orgasm (or two!) before you go out on the town with your girlfriends. The endorphins flowing through your body, plus the subtle scent to pheromones, will drive guys wild. The fact that you are the one responsible for your sexual pleasure is empowering and super sexy. And every time you remember your little secret, you'll get a sly smile or a big grin on your face.